Develop A Good Sexual Relationship In Your Marriage

I't's amazing how many Christian couples have obsessions about the topic of sex. There are still some people who think that sex in marriage is something you do when God is not looking! God created us as a sexual being as in the statement "male and female he created them" (Genesis 5:2). Is not it interesting that the first statement that God made about his human creation stressed the fact that were biologically (and mentally) different? The gift of sexuality has provided the men and women, within marriage to more fully express and share the love that God intends with each other.
The Christian church for centuries has suffered from many non-biblical conclusions on the subject of sex. Clement of Alexandria said that "marriage is sacred should be kept free of physical contact." Origen, another Fathers of the Church, said: "Adam did not have sexual knowledge of his wife until after the fall. If it were not for the fall of the human race would probably have spread in some mysterious way or angelic without sex, and therefore without sin. "During the Middle Ages, some theologians believe that the Holy Spirit left the room when two married people have sex, even though they were for the purpose of conceiving a child. We have inherited many of the false notions about sex in the past and we Christians must return to the Bible and see what actually observed about sex and marriage is of divine origin in these words: "He created man and woman. " Here are some more of the Scriptures as a basis to reach firm conclusions on the subject of sex.

* Human sexuality is the unqualified approval of God: "God saw all that he did and was very good" (Genesis 1:31).
* Sex and marriage were a gift from God before the fall: "God blessed them and said," Be fruitful and multiply "(Genesis 1:28).
* Sex exists not only for the purpose of procreation. It is the means by which married couples can give physical pleasure to each other, as is apparent from an examination of the Scriptures as the Song of Songs, Proverbs 5:15-21, Deuteronomy 24:5.

When couples advice on the topic of sex most counselors gives the following advice.

1. Educate yourself on sexual basics: Every man and every woman should have a basic understanding of male and female anatomy. The biblical statement "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge" (Hosea 4:6) is as true in the area of sexual understanding as it is in matters of spiritual truth. Today you can buy hundreds of books on the subject of sex and marriage. Some are educational and useful, others who aspired to the erotic. Visit a Christian bookstore and ask for advice on the subject. Any steps you take to educate themselves regarding the basic facts of sexual function surely pay in their relationship.
2. Be alert to the psychological differences between male and female personality. I found that one of the main problems among married couples in relation to the topic of sex is because they recognize the important psychological differences between married couples in relation to the topic of sex is because they recognize the important psychological differences between a man and a women. A man, for example, is sexually aroused by what he sees: a woman is stimulated more by what he hears. When a man looks at his wife in the preparation undressing to go to bed, it becomes often willing to have sex. People sometimes overlook, however, that his wife does not respond so readily to the idea of sex as you do and then not as understanding and tender as it should in the quest to bring her sexually available. For a woman does not begin to sex in the bedroom but in the living room. She sees sex as from a stroke, continuing with affectionate words, and then a while after reaching its climax in the act of intercourse. A woman I know told her husband in a counseling session, "I would like to act lovingly to me as soon as you get home at night may be ready for passion and intimacy of bedtime. "


Note that the husband and wife are responsible for complying with all other sexual needs of their lives. Paul said: "The man must give his wife all that is her husband ... So do not deny these rights among themselves" (1 Corinthians 7:3). The husband is responsible for meeting the sexual needs of his wife. Him with love and tenderness awake to complete their sexual experience as possible. Similarly, a woman must satisfy the sexual needs of her husband. She must love him regularly and wakes up as complete, the sexual experience as possible. The husband should not expect his wife to satisfy their sexual needs through masturbation and women should not expect her husband to meet their own sexual needs in this way. If they are motivated by the love you want to satisfy the sexual needs of others, it is only through giving that they actually receive. In the Scripture I quoted above, goes on to say "The body of the woman no longer has a claim on its own but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong only to him but also his wife . In marriage the woman's body does not belong to her, but her husband and he will own it. In the same way as the husband's body does not belong to him but to his wife and she has the ownership. This concept has to be at the forefront of thought all married couples because then it breaks the vicious circle of egocentrism and motivates a man and a woman not to be givers and takers in the relationship.